Tell us a little about yourselves
Puneet and I consider ourselves to be the perfect opposites. Our personalities, approach to life, ability to “breathe fire” and our heights are on opposite ends of the spectrum. Nonetheless, our zest for life brought us together on several occasions, and we finally started our incredible journey together in 2012 – getting engaged five years later, and now happily married.
Invitation photography by: Elana Schilz Photography
Where was your wedding held?
Our wedding was held at Balmoral Gardens Wedding and Conference Venue in De Deur, South Africa. We wanted a simple cinema-style setup for the ceremony and Harry Potter styled seating for lunch. We also wanted the venue to create a relaxed atmosphere that allowed our guests to mingle as well as have sufficient space and facilities to keep kids entertained during the ceremony.
My Grahshanti Ceremony and Sangeet was held at Park Primary School in Lenasia, South Africa.
How did your personalities and individual styles influence your wedding setting?:
We always believe in having a good time! Our Sangeet was the perfect example – we laughed and had the time of our lives dancing the night away!
I also love wearing clothes with floral prints, and whenever I do, Puneet would smile and say “you look like summer”, and this is exactly what I wanted the setting of our wedding to feel like. I opted for a bright red lehenga with floral embroidery, keeping the setting fresh with greenery and whites.
Wedding planning can be stressful, tell us a little about the ups and downs you experienced in putting your big day together.
I planned my wedding way in advance- for example, I booked my make-up artist as soon as I got engaged in 2017 – but I could never have planned for the unexpected. It rained the entire week of our wedding (including the days of our pre-wedding functions), we had load-shedding the night before the wedding (but thankfully, it came back at 4:00 am). There are some things which are beyond our control, but there is always another plan!
Did you have any DIY projects?
Yes! One of my favourites was the backdrop for my Pithi ceremony. I used my mum’s old crocheting hoops, spray-painted them in gold and stuck artificial flowers to them. They were simple but had an elegant touch to them.
One of the dance items for my Sangeet involved using Dandiya sticks. My dad decorated dow sticks with satin ribbons which were also given to my friends as gifts.
I kept my wedding favours simple. We used seed envelopes and stuck a white paper flower to it. These had a packet of sounf in them.
Most memorable moments?
Puneet and I both felt the love and energy from our friends and families throughout the three-day ceremony. We will always cherish how special we felt!
For me personally, it was walking down the aisle. I am generally very emotional, but this was overcome by the excitement of a new beginning, and spending the rest of my life with my best friend.
Getting dressed for each ceremony set the tone for the day for me! I started feeling all the love and joy – having an incredible make-up artist with a calm demeanor, and my best friends to laugh with.
Also, my seven-year-old nephew, Shivam, came up to me before the wedding ceremony (after having my hair and make-up done) and said: “Jesalfoi, you look so different and pretty, but your smile is still the same, and that’s how I know it’s you”. I’ll always treasure it.
Any tips/tricks/advice for our future bridal couples out there?
If you have a particular service provider in mind, book them in advance to avoid disappointment later on. You need to be comfortable working with them, and build a good relationship – the wedding planning process is a long time! Also, prioritise what is most important to you in making your day special. For us, it was good food and good music – our favorites.
Be present during your ceremony. The heart-warming and fulfilling feeling that comes with walking into this new chapter with your favourite person cannot be explained.
Most importantly, embrace the chaos that comes with a big fat Indian wedding and don’t sweat the small stuff. You will look back at the memories and reminisce about how fun it actually turned out to be:)
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